The teenage years are a crucial stage of life; it’s a phase of self-discovery, social pressures, and the constant tug-of-war between fitting in and staying true to oneself. As parents or teachers, witnessing our children going through their teenage years can be both nerve-wracking and rewarding. More than anything, we often wonder what we can do to help. One of the biggest challenges they face is peer pressure, the influence of their peers to conform to certain behaviors, beliefs, or attitudes. Especially when they are exposed to so many different values shown by social media, movies, or society.
From a Christian perspective, navigating peer pressure goes beyond just avoiding negative influences. It’s about guiding them to make choices that align with their faith and values, drawing strength from God, the ultimate source of peace. It’s also about understanding their basic needs of acceptance and communication.
Step 1: Building a Strong Foundation
1. Root their identity in Christ
Help them to understand that their worth and acceptance come from God, not their peers. Encourage them to pray and develop a personal relationship with Jesus.Â
2. Open Communication
Foster a safe space where they can openly discuss their struggles and feelings without judgment. Listen actively and offer guidance only after understanding their feelings.
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3. Values-based Decision-Making
Peer Discuss your family’s values and how they apply to everyday situations. Encourage critical thinking and help them identify potential pressure points.
4. Positive Role Models
Surround them with positive influences, both within and outside the church. Encourage participation in activities that align with their values and interests
Step 2: Equipping Them for Difficult Situations
1. Develop Communication Skills
It’s beneficial for them to be able to express their feelings and opinions assertively without being aggressive or defensive. Encourage them to ask questions and seek clarification before making decisions.
2. Identify “Safe Havens”
Talk about trusted adults, mentors, or friends they can turn to for support and guidance when facing peer pressure. Encourage them to surround themselves with positive influences who will uphold their values.
Step 3: Remember, It’s a Journey!
1. Validate Their Struggles
Acknowledge that peer pressure can be difficult and offer support without judgment. Listen actively and empathize with their feelings of confusion or frustration.
2. Focus on Growth, Not Perfection
There will be missteps and moments of weakness. Use them as learning opportunities to reinforce their faith and equip them for future challenges.
3. Celebrate Victories, Big and Small
Recognize their efforts to stand up for their values, even in small ways. This positive reinforcement will encourage them to continue making wise choices.
Facing peer pressure is a normal part of growing up. By equipping them with the tools and support they need, we can empower them to make choices that reflect their faith and values, navigate the social landscape with confidence, and emerge as strong, independent individuals.
To support your journey in parenting teenagers, it is also beneficial to look for a school that can holistically support your child. This can come in different forms, and one of them is through supportive Learning Support Team (LST) and programs. Through these kinds of programs, such as the ones implemented at SPH Kemang Village, your journey in parenting teenagers will be a much more enjoyable one!
Prepare your child for a successful future by enrolling them in our learning programs. Join us at SPH and make the parenting journey of raising teenagers an even more enriching and enjoyable experience!
Written by Grace Kwee, Counselor at SPH Kemang Village (grace.kwee@sph.ac.id)
